Husband uses drone to catch cheating wife

What are the top 5 ways to lose your cool during a divorce?

Drones have recently become much more than simply a vehicle for high-tech selfies, with uses ranging from law enforcement surveillance to scientific research. Unfortunately, for one Pennsylvania couple, a drone is responsible for revealing an extra-marital affair.  

Husband John Consiglio used a drone to spy on his wife, whom he suspected was cheating on him. After drone footage confirmed his suspicions, Consiglio posted a video of the footage, complete with commentary, onto YouTube. The video, predictably, went viral.

Consiglio’s grief is understandable. Too many divorces end because of an affair, causing pain and heartbreak for all involved. There are, however, certain things your lawyer may advise against when it comes to entering into divorce proceedings. Resorting in YouTube postings is one of them.

Top 5 Things Your Divorce Attorney Wishes You Would Not Do

Divorce is one of the most difficult experiences couples can go through. It is quite common for one or both parties in a divorce to lose their cool one way or another. Losing your temper and becoming frustrated is natural. When someone heads to the Internet during those tough times, it can make your divorce a lot more complicated.

Here are five things your divorce attorney wishes you would not do when you are thinking about divorce or actually filing for divorce.

  1. Do Not Post Angry – whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram or SnapChat, it’s best to keep posts neutral or positive. Posting an angry rant about your soon-to-be-ex can only complicate things. A good rule of thumb is to take a breath and ask yourself if you really want your post read in open court.
  2. Do Not Leave Angry Messages – again, just like angry posting, leaving angry voicemail messages for your soon-to-be-ex is a good way to invite embarrassment in court. If you don’t want others to hear it, go tell it to a trusted friend instead.
  3. Do Not Post Party Pics – of course it’s natural to want to cut loose and let off some steam during this difficult time. However, do not post, or allow anyone else to post, pictures of you with drugs or alcohol, you clearly inebriated, or otherwise in a moment of questionable judgment. This is especially true if your divorce involves a custody battle with young children. Opposing counsel will scour the Internet for examples of poor behavior or judgment. Don’t give them the ammunition.
  4. Do Not Stalk Your Ex – Maybe you want to see if they’ve moved on to someone else, or if they’re suffering as much as you are. Regardless of the reason, it’s best to occupy your time in a more constructive way.
  5. Do Not Erase Your Social Media Data – By all means, make your posts private, but do not delete your profile. Doing so could land you in hot water during a divorce.

Thinking About Divorce?

If you are thinking about filing for divorce, before you do anything else, talk to an experienced divorce attorney. Mr. Swavely has over 25 years of experience managing all types of family law issues including divorce, child custody, spousal support and pre-nuptial agreements. Request a consultation or call today at (610) 816-6366.